Autistic behaviors vs autistic needs

I'm starting to realize that most people don't know what autistic needs are. 

In fact, a lot of people seem to think that autism is just the criteria and nothing more. That what you see is what you get. (Even many autistic people seem to think this.) 

Because any time I mention underlying reasons for an autistic behavior you can see (like "rigidity") I'm met with people telling me that not every autistic behavior has an underlying reason. Even autistic people say this.

And I simply don't agree. 

I think every observable behavior has an underlying reason that's tied to an unmet brain wiring need.

Every. Single. One.

Of course, I can't prove this to be true. Not universally. Not scientifically. But I can certainly assert this from a philosophical and psychological standpoint. 

And no one can stop me from having this opinion. Or from sharing it. Even if they don't like it. Which, many clearly don't. 

And that's ok. 

People can choose to hold onto their opinions. 

But unless I am met with concrete evidence that counters mine, I will continue to believe that autistic behaviors, all of them, have underlying reasons. Logical ones. Human ones.

Because, in my opinion, that's how we hold space for brain wiring differences with the care and respect every human being deserves.

And if you're autistic and feel misinterpreted by the DSM criteria and all the rhetoric that makes you the problem and you the person who needs fixing... I see you. 

I hope you find comfort in this space. 

And I will continue doing everything I can to make you feel safe and seen here. ❤️