A lot of people get parenting autistic children wrong. And I'm going to explain how in the simplest of terms.

They think autistic kids need to learn how to tolerate things they find intolerable, because... "that's life." 

This could not be more wrong. 

What autistic kids need to learn is how to tell the difference between something that can be changed and something that can't. 

And then, learn to ask for accommodations and support when something can be changed. In other words... advocate for themselves. 

Because the VAST MAJORITY of the time... things are changeable.

And when they aren't... the autistic child doesn't need tough love. Which won't magically make them better able to tolerate whatever they're finding intolerable,  btw. They need empathy, compassion, and emotional support.

Just like ANYONE would when something feels intolerable to them but can't be changed.

And I sincerely wish every single person on the planet understood this about autistic people. (Not just parents.) Because this right here... is the difference between autistic suffering... and safety.

And autistic people deserve safety over suffering just as much as anyone else.